The closer we are to each other, the more likely we are to step on each other’s toes. And
Marriage certainly certainly puts us in close quarters to the likelihood of this reality. So, the chances are good that you and your spouse have sore feet.
The point is that it's NORMAL for you and your spouse to argue and disagree and for these disputes to cause hurt...sometimes suffering, pain and distress.
I am sure that you have been hurt and made mistakes that hurt each other. Except in the case of physical abuse, you can "move on" from anything. In fact, your relationship could result in being even BETTER! Because of this.
I know...you're probably thinking, "Better? How could it be better than before we screwed up?"
It CAN be better, but you accomplish one thing first . You have to FORGIVE.
What does FORGIVENESS mean?
How often do we say, "I forgive you," but continue to harbor anger in our hearts? We may say the words, but it's evident from our actions that nothing's changed. Your spouse might say "I forgive you" but what he/she really means is, "I don't want to talk about it, I can't deal with this. I'm turning you off." And so the 3 magic words come out and form a barricade that shuts each other out. This means we’re not angry anymore. Howcome? Very easy, because we have managed to shut down all emotion and refuse to reconnect.
Saying "I forgive you" is an entirely different ball game than truly forgiving. The word "FORGIVE." tells you what it means. "FOR-GIVE"...in other words, to GIVE as you did beFORE. That's true forgiveness. When we GIVE of ourselves like we did before we were hurt, then we will know that we have or have been forgiven. When you stand as close to our spouses as we stood the day our feet got stepped on...that's forgiveness. That's not easy to do. But it is possible. You can forgive each other and move on. And once you forgive, you'll see that your relationship will be BETTER than it was before. You'll be happy that the mistake was made (in a strange way) because you'll realize that you would never have achieved the love you finally did without that mistake as your catalyst.
When a bone is broken, it actually heals stronger than it was before it was broken? You too can be STRONGER than before things broke down between the two of you. Have you ever made love to each other after a big fight? Did you ever think after you made-up, "Hey, this is great? We should fight more often." (Ha Ha) Sometimes the highest-highs follow the lowest-lows. But you have to know how to reconcile. You have to know how to get to a place of sincere forgiveness.