Being married certainly puts you in close quarters of annoying each other. Do you feel hurt by your spouse? Have you made mistakes that hurt your spouse? Besides physical abuse, you can move past anything. In fact, your relationship and your marriage could end up even BETTER!, however, in order to achieve this, the key component is forgiveness. You have to forgive.
But what does forgiveness mean? Many spouses say, "I forgive you," but continue to harbor anger. Some people say the words, but it's obvious from their actions that nothing's changed. Others may say "I forgive you" but what they really mean is, "I don't want to talk about this. I can't deal with this. So a wall is formed that shuts out their spouse.
They may not seem angry, but what they’ve done is shut down their emotions which makes it difficult for them to reconnect. When we say "I forgive you" doesn’t mean we truly forgive.
If we analyze the word "forgive; "For-Give" in other words, to GIVE as you did beFORE. That's forgiveness. When you GIVE of yourself like you did beFORE you were hurt, then you know you've forgiven.
When you connect with your spouse as you did before you were hurt, that's forgiveness and this is difficult to achieve. But it’s possible.
You can forgive each other and move past it the hurt and once this has happened, you'll see that your marriage will be BETTER than it was before. You'll be happier for the mistake or hurt (in a strange way) because if you forgive whole heartedly or feel forgiveness totally, you will realise you would never have achieved the love you finally did without that mistake as your catalytic agent.
When you break a bone in your body it heals it's stronger than it was before it was broken? Your relationship can be STRONGER and you will be closer than before things broke down.
Have you ever made love after a big fight? Did you ever think that make up sex feels so great that you should fight more? Bizarre as it sounds, the highest-highs follow the lowest-lows. But you have to know how to reunite, square up and reconcile. You have to know how to get to a place of sincere understanding, compassion and forgiveness.
